A guest post by yours truly
At the moment it's closing in on 9pm, which happens to be what time I got home from work. Luckily it's not too often that I have to stumble in at 9pm from the "office" but this past year I've been homeward bound no earlier than 7 o' clock many times. Seeing as my day starts at 5:30am getting home so late means I miss pretty much all but maybe two hours if I'm lucky of my little one's daily life. Two hours to catch up to mama, who's been in her line of sight 24/7 since she was born. That's impossible. Now factor in I'm usually gone these hours six days a week, factor in band practices, and other after work activities and that equals even more impossible. How do working dad's do it? Where does the quality time for your main squeeze come from? Where does the time for your own self come from? After a long day I can muster up just enough to grab a cold one from the fridge, shovel some food down and then end the day watching a little tv with my girls. I know for centuries this is how it has been to be a man with a family, but why? Why do we as people choose to create such unrealistic deadlines, why is everything rush rush, money money? I wish it was easy to walk away from things, but I'm one of those people that's been sucked in to this type of deal, no work no money, so it's off to work I go. Finding a balance between work and family time I think has to be one of the toughest parts of fatherhood, knowing that you will not be there for so many of their firsts is saddening. The worst part of it all is I'm a quick step away from a decade of this madness and its been like this since I can remember. I've talked to Jess about quitting my job and moving to a farm where we can be self sustaining and enjoy all the time in the world together but I know I'd never actually do it. Having a baby means certain needs to be met and it's off to work I go.
So ladies, appreciate your man for what he's doing and let him know he's appreciated.
We don't go to work to get away from home, we go to work to have a home.